During the holiday season, many parents are searching for toys that truly support healthy development rather than ones that simply light up and make noise. The brain grows the fastest it ever will in the first three months of life, with the second-fastest period occurring between three and six months. This rapid growth makes early experiences and interactions especially important. Hugh Cheek, M.D., assistant professor in the Division of Academic General Pediatrics at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, reminds families that the most meaningful gifts are rarely high-tech. The toys that matter most help children connect, imagine and engage with the world around them.

Why your presence is the best toy

Hugh Cheek, M.D.Co-play and face-to-face interaction shape communication, emotional growth and problem-solving. Play, whether a child plays alone, with peers or with caregivers, supports brain development and early language skills.

“Look for toys that create face-to-face interaction and back-and-forth play between parents and their children. That is where so much of the developmental growth happens,” said Cheek.

Simple toys like blocks, puppets, dolls and cardboard boxes spark creativity and shared engagement. When parents join in, they strengthen connection and gain insight into their child’s interests.

How screen time affects early development

Screens may seem educational, but they offer fewer developmental benefits than families expect. Screens promote passive attention, reduce natural language exchange and can make transitions away from devices difficult.

Books, imaginative games and physical activity provide the sensory input and real-world interaction children need. Talking through the pages of a book offers more meaningful learning than any app.

“Screens are two dimensional and promote passive attention. With active attention, we use all of our senses. That is what children really need for healthy brain development,” Cheek emphasizes.

Do good developmental toys have to be expensive

Not at all. Many effective toys are inexpensive and open-ended. Pots and wooden spoons become instruments. Cardboard tubes become building materials. Crayons and paper support creativity and fine motor skills.

Budget-friendly favorites include:

• Wooden blocks
• Simple train sets
• Art supplies
• Puzzles
• Board games
• Building sets, such as age-appropriate Lego sets
• Play kitchen sets

Activity-based gifts can also be meaningful. A library card gives families access to book rentals, group reading time, story hours and book fairs. Other options such as a parent-child yoga class, dress-up clothing, audiobooks and audio story devices like Yoto or Tonie encourage creativity and shared experiences without screens.

How to choose gifts for neurodivergent children

Choosing gifts for neurodivergent children begins with understanding their needs and sensory preferences. Their developmental stage, not just age, should guide gift choices. Items that support comfort, communication or emotional regulation can be especially helpful.

Thoughtful options include:

• Sensory-friendly toys
• Washable art supplies or music-making toys
• Movement-based toys
• Building sets
• Activity-based experiences like zoo passes or art classes

When unsure, asking families what their child enjoys ensures the gift is appropriate. “A child’s chronological age does not always match their developmental ability,” said Cheek. “Asking parents what works best is always the right place to start.”

What safety risks parents should watch for

Most toy-related injuries are minor, but some toys can be dangerous if poorly made or used incorrectly. Parents can reduce risks by choosing sturdy toys, checking labels and being mindful of small parts. Families can also visit recalls.gov for updates on recalled toys.

Key things to watch for include:

• Small choking hazards
• Button batteries or loose magnets
• Toys that shoot projectiles
• Weak plastic that may break
• Stuffed toys with loose parts or strings

What matters most

Parents and caregivers remain the strongest influence on a child’s development. Toys that promote imagination, connection and hands-on exploration offer far more lasting value than flashing gadgets or screens.

“Before children ever say a word, they are taking in so much through their senses. Read, sing and talk with them. Surround them with real experiences and real connection. That is what supports their development the most,” said Cheek.